As a lot of you will know I set up RagHeroes as I have two little boys who wanted their own dolls to play with, but after searching high and low they did not see one they liked. They were all too girly, so we made some together, more boyish ones, and RagHeroes was born.
As a mum of two boys and also partly influenced by my career in counselling, psychotherapy and play therapy, I strongly believe that all little boys should have access to toys which promote and nurture their caring sides. I believe wholeheartedly this is an essential part of their development, if we want them to grown into teenagers and men who are able to express how they feel and deal with ‘difficult’ emotions. I think allowing them access to toys, such as dolls for boys will encourage them to explore this side of their personality and to embrace it. I’ve recently been looking at the work of Sandra Crosser (Ph D) who has studied the language development of young children. In one of her articles when observing language development, she states, “Neither boys nor girls spoke much when playing with the toy vehicles. The most language interaction and exposure occurred as children played with dolls”. This shows how important role play with dolls is for our children. Delays in language development can cause problems with children not being able to express themselves, and in turn having difficulties when their needs are not fully met. Little boys especially are known to talk later than girls, so there may even be more of a benefit in giving a little boy a doll to play with.
In the last couple of weeks I’ve had some interesting feedback, mainly positive, especially from Mums and Dads. They agree that there is nothing wrong with boys playing with dolls at all and agree that it helps them to develop their caring side. I have also had feedback telling me how my idea for RagHeroes won’t be accepted by society just yet as people are not ready to let their boys play with dolls, and that men will not let their boys out of the house with them.
I was really thankful for some feedback from The Real Supermum and her many followers on twitter. The Real Supermum asked her group, of over 1000 women, if they thought boys should be able to play with dolls and almost all who answered agreed. However, some of them did say that they thought their husbands would have an issue with it, but it would not stop them from buying one.
So my question is, ‘what do you think? Should little boys be allowed to play with dolls?’
As always I really appreciate any feedback you may have.